What to do when you are having a crisis/ stress in the family.

I really learned a lot this week from the readings, as well as my classmates. First of all we learned the ABCX model for dealing with crisis or stress of any kind.
Actual Event
Behavioral Response(s)
Cognition (Thoughts, Event)
Total EXperience

Brother Williams asked us to make lists this week of crises that we have seen in our own families, in the lives of those close to us, and also that we might expect in our future families. We then categorized them into these four categories:
That Stunk!- Human error
It's Okay Now
We Managed
We're Better - Compassion(empathy)
Thank You - Eternal perspective- Just happened
We seemed to notice a pattern in the positive or negative reactions that we had to these events, that when they are caused by human error we seem to have more of a negative response to them, and when these events just happen we seem to have a more positive response towards these events. It also seems that as time passes we move from That Stunk! to Thank You as our understanding of the events increases.

Some of the crises and stresses that we might go through are the death of a loved one, divorce, finances, health, employment, and also natural disasters. The way we handle these events is up to us. There are many resources we can use to help us through these times of struggle- family, professionals, and also books.

We need to practice what we would do in these circumstances - make it through something small successfully, so that when a larger crisis comes we might be able to handle it successfully. When we are accustomed to working together, we are better able to go trials together. It's not about us individually, but it is about coming together for those that we love.